Nathan is very clearly a fool, a moron, an idiot and one stupid muthafucka. Ms. Bethany, ask this Nathan, if he had a wife, girlfriend, daughter, sister or niece, if THEY were to be raped, would his tiny brain still think as he displayed in his back and forth with you.
I will copy his remark for my blind followers (visually impaired) so you can see Nathan’s point of view. Why am I entertaining Nathan? Because Nathan is the voice of someone unwilling ot educate himself on the truth of rape. I tried. I wrote a blog. I tried. But some people will not and do not care to understand. It is a sad truth. It is why women do not come forward .
“Why even get drunk in the first place? By the way, I am not giving a reason for the assaulter to commit rape! What makes you think that if someone rapes a person that person wouldn’t want to kill the victim afterwards? You should spend more time giving “preventative advice” to women in addition to the great work you and your husband do. Surround yourself with good people in a good environment to eliminate the chance of abuse. If you are willing to share your story, you should be open to receive questions. You make it sound like asking a question is a another form of rape. It is just words; nothing more. You should know better.”
A victim of abuse is not to be asked questions as to why they did nothing.
THIS INDIVIDUAL BELIEVES SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH GOOD WILL PROTECT YOU? I WAS WITH MY BEST FRIEND. WHO WAS GOOD. HER HUSBAND ASSUMED TO BE GOOD. ACTED GOOD FOR OUR 10 YEAR FRIENDSHIP. HE WAS A SEXUAL DEVIANT. THE MAN WHO ABUSED ME AS A CHILD. HE WAS PRESUMED TO BE GOOD. HE WAS PART OF AN ENTIRE SKI TEAM. “PREVENTATIVE” ADVICE? BLAME. YOU ARE MERELY BLAMING THE VICTIM. SHE COULD HAVE PREVENTED IT?HAD SHE NOT GOTTEN DRUNK? HAD SHE NOT BEEN AROUND BAD MEN?
Drinking alcohol and going to a party does not excuse this rape behavior.
I will no longer engage this individual who has asked this woman why she did nothing after being taken to a remote location and raped repeatedly be men. I will advocate for this woman and I will advocate against Nathan and those like Nathan who claim to be uneducated but truly are just fucking assholes. Really. Let us call a spade a spade.
These blogs are women and men who are finally getting a voice to speak so no NATHAN you don’t get to ask why she didn’t scream. I should know better??? Asking a person what you did is called re-victimization. I never said it was like rape. It is re-victimization. Stop doing it.
Perhaps if I were not wearing shorts and a tank top that would have been preventative. Rapists are rapists. They will rape!!!!!!!! Understand that!!!!!
Yes, you can stay in a crowd. No it is best not to get drunk at a frat house. But we are not as well versed in rapists and bad men at the naive age that rape occurs. We think that men are good. We think that we are safe.
I am disgusted on a level you could never imagine . Keep your comments to yourself. I am done with you and going back to my road to recovery and helping other women understand the path to healing.