YES. You read that correctly. Your eyes are NOT fooling you first thing Monday afternoon. I, The Militant Negro, are giving out advice, let alone RELATIONSHIP advice.
See this image above? I assume every healthy SINGLE man/woman is seeking a healthy relationship, so why do women, and I am speaking directly to women because I do not date men, why do women tend to bring every past relationship baggage along for the ride when embarking on a brand new relationship. Thats not really a question.
Since becoming a single healthy red blooded male in 2000, when my wife of nine years died, I have been in a plethora of female relationships. Some platonic, some not so platonic. I’ve had lengthy conversations with women who I happened to have been involved romantically with and some not romantically involved, most times concerning men from their past. The one constant in almost every talk has been…….MEN ARE ALL JERKS.
That consensus is certainly false but women believe it to be factual. Speaking for the men on this planet, some women are a bit clueless as well. And while all men are jerks, EVERY woman tends to carry an SUV full of baggage from EVERY relationship she has encountered since birth. They have daddy issues. They have high school boyfriend issues. They have that first true love issue(s). They have “he cheated on me so you will also” issues.
So here comes the advice, from a man who does not ever give advice, so pay close attention………… The very next man you meet, date, get involved with romantically…. DO NOT DUMP YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIP SHIT ON HIS BACK. SHOULDERS. HEAD.
I understand men can be jerks, but lets be totally real here, not every man you meet is an exact copy of the one before him, and if he is an exact copy, then YOU are choosing the WRONG men/man. Break that cycle and choose a totally different man type. That next guy is a new task, adventure, episode in your life of relationships so treat him like you would a fresh book you open to read.
When you start a new book, or pop a new DVD into the player, you are not expecting to see the same exact story……are you. SO WHY DO YOU EXPECT TO HAVE THE VERY SAME EXPERIENCE WITH THIS NEW MAN…..that you have had with the past men.
Stop it. Just DON’T Do It. Do NOT start treating this new man like you THINK he is going to treat you. Like the other guys treated you from your relationship past.
Don’t do things to facilitate you getting into a break up when it could have gone totally different. Listen up closely cause here comes the solution.
Treat all new romantic relationship as if they are your very first romantic relationship and you have NO PRIOR KNOWLEDGE OF MEN OR HOW MEN ARE, HOW MEN TREATED YOU IN THE PAST because you HAVE NO PAST WITH MEN.
Ladies, you gotta treat men whom you meet, date and get involved with as if they are a fresh canvas and you are going to paint your first masterpiece. Bring nothing from your past painting into your new project. I’ll be simple and crystal clear. Do NOT assume your new man is a carbon copy of your last man. Do NOT burden him with the tons of bad shit from those jerks from your past…… Or. You. Will. Get. Dumped. At the very least this new relationship will fail.
Don’t be afraid to try something different. IF you bought 4 dresses from a dress makes and all 4 dresses never fit well. They NEVER made your butt look sexy. Would you continue to buy dresses from THAT dress maker….OR FIND A NEW, DIFFERENT. BETTER DRESS MAKER?
Do not give up…..
It can and will happen for you if you give this new relationship a fighting chance.
Stop being jerks. Cause some of you ARE JERKS.